The Connected Child: Bring hope and healing to your adoptive family | 
| Authors: Karyn Purvis, David Cross, Wendy Sunshine
Publisher: McGraw-Hill
Category: Book
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Media: Paperback
Edition: 1
Pages: 288
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Dimensions (in): 9 x 6 x 0.7
ISBN: 0071475001
Dewey Decimal Number: 649.145
EAN: 9780071475006
ASIN: 0071475001
Publication Date: April 22, 2007
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The adoption of a child is always a joyous moment in the life of a family. Some adoptions, though, present unique challenges. Welcoming these children into your family--and addressing their special needs--requires care, consideration, and compassion. Written by two research psychologists specializing in adoption and attachment, The Connected Child will help you: -- Build bonds of affection and trust with your adopted child -- Effectively deal with any learning or behavioral disorders --Discipline your child with love without making him or her feel threatened
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 A must read December 22, 2008
D. Giacoia (Long Island, NY)
1 out of 1 found this review helpful
For anyone adopting an older child I think this is a must read book. I originally took this book out of the library, read it twice and still felt I needed to own it so I could mark pages for reference. The only information I wish was included is how to tackle some of these issues with a foreign born child who doesn't understand your language yet. FYI: I found this helpful for parenting my biological child as well as understanding myself better.
 Connected Child provides solid direction for helping troubled adopted children September 24, 2008
Myles Falvella (Upper St. Clair, PA, USA)
1 out of 2 found this review helpful
We're the parents of a couple of adopted kids, and have continually searched for specific information about adopted children with broad-spectrum diagnoses (ADHD, ODD, RAD, Bipolar Disorder). At one time or another, our kids have had all of these diagnoses attached to their issues/behaviors.
It's become clear to us -- and other parent of adopted kids with whom we speak -- that these broad-spectrum diagnoses are "convenient" terms in which to bucket our kids. These kids frequently show the same issues and inappropriate behaviors. Unfortunately, the standard process for addressing these issues (positive reinforcement, drug therapies, structured responses, diet modifications) never seem to work. This appears especially true of those kids, such as our daughter, who are adopted from Eastern European insitutions/orphanages.
We're read all of the general literature regarding these broad-spectrum diagnoses and tried every guideline in these books on how remediate these issues and bad behaviors -- all with little or no success.
"The Connected Child" speaks directly to the behavioral issues and unique emotional requirements that these adopted children require. Their approach -- based on the TCU Institute of Child Development methodology --is more a process for modifying parent behavior than addressing the child's issues and behaviors. Specifically, the book suggests that all of these kids exhibit behaviors based on perceived threats and fears established/learned during their earliest years in institutions. It recommends that parents develop -- and consistently reinforce -- a loving, affectionate, trusting and safe environment for these kids so that they can grow away from viewing people and life situations in a fearful or threatening way.
While "The Connected Child" makes a strong case for the unique issues associated with these institutionalized children and lays a relatively solid foundation for how to cope with and reach these children, in my opinion, their relatively "easy read" book with short "punchy" chapters and sections doesn't lay out the kind of structured or disciplined approach required. The authors are suggesting a life-changing and home environment-changing methodology for both the affected children, their parents and siblings, and other significant influencers in the kid's lives (teachers, counselors). More detailed direction on how to successfully implement their methodology would have been appreciated.
Additionally, I find their frequent use of "semi-miracle" anecdotes a bit too much: child couldn't be reached using standard therapies; parents -- at wit's end -- try the "Connected Child" methodology; child cured. I'm sure that there's much more trial-and-error or initial failures (by both the kids and the parents) with their methodology than are depicted in this book.
Still, I would recommend that this book be read by those parents with those adopted children who have been institutionalized and who have not responded to the traditional therapies for these broad-spectrum diagnoses. The "Connected Child" approach for building a safe and secure environment for these unique kids -- however difficult for the parents to accomplish -- deserves attention.
 Great book for adoptive parents September 23, 2008
C Street
I think this is a good resource for families who are adopting, especially those adopting children who are older and/or have had rocky starts in life.
Excellent September 11, 2008
Kathryn K. Radcliffe (Raleigh, NC)
Excellent book - very helpful for a new adoptive mom of a 4 year old from China.
This book was our break through August 28, 2008
Tess
2 out of 2 found this review helpful
What a great tool this book has been. It helped us make a break through with our second daughter who we had been struggling with for over a year. We had been working hard with all of her indivual issues in isolation. We worked with her language delays, her behavorial problems, her sleep issues, sibling struggles and more. This his book helped with the big picture and helped make all that all that other work come together in a way that really helped our whole family.
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