| To Love, Honor, and Betray: The Secret Life of Suburban Wives | 
 enlarge | Authors: Stephanie Gertler, Adrienne Lopez
Publisher: Hyperion
Category: Book
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Avg. Customer Rating:  8 reviews
Sales Rank: 516343
Media: Paperback
Number Of Items: 1
Pages: 240
Shipping Weight (lbs): 0.6
Dimensions (in): 8.7 x 5.4 x 0.6
ISBN: 1401307655
Dewey Decimal Number: 306.7360973
EAN: 9781401307653
ASIN: 1401307655
Publication Date: February 15, 2006
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Product Description
Now in paperback, a provocative look at the lives of 26 married suburban women, offering a fascinating and nuanced portrait of marriage and infidelity Extramarital affairs are often whispered about behind closed doors. In this groundbreaking book, the doors open. Stephanie Gertler and Adrienne Lopez take an intimate and sensitive look at the lives of 26 married or previously married women who have either had an affair, are having an affair, or are wrestling with their conflicting emotions and loyalties as they consider the possibility of being unfaithful to their husbands. The women are between the ages of 35 and 70. They hail from various cultures, races, professions, and economic levels. Most have children. Many crave passion, intimacy, conversation, romance. And when those things arent forthcoming in their marriages, they seek them elsewhere. To Love, Honor, and Betray never judges: It provides candid conversations, rendering womens lives in ways that are surprising and moving, while offering remarkable insight into the complexity of long-term relationships. Its the book that women have been waiting for.
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 Fascinating look inside... October 28, 2008
I found this book fascinating. A look into why women cheat. I think every married woman could relate to one of the stories in this book.
 Perhaps somewhat demoralizing, but eye-opening and very valuable. March 10, 2006
3 out of 3 found this review helpful
26 women tell why they are having, have had, or fantasized about having affairs outside their marriage. The editors of this book are not social scientists, but they are intentionally non-judgmental. However, this work seems to verify what social scientist John Gottman has found in his extensive research on marriage and relationships-- that a happy marriage/relationship simply cannot grow out of too much emotional distance and lack of shared nurturing and vision in a marriage. (See THE RELATIONSHIP CURE and 7 PRINCIPLES FOR MAKING MARRIAGE WORK.) The book easily held my attention, and gave many insights into the dynamics of troubled marriages, but exclusively from the wife's point-of-view. I recommend it to those who wish to better understand the dynamics of troubled marriages, especially where at least one outside friend/lover may be a factor.
 Poorly witten, poorly presented in True Confessions style January 24, 2006
3 out of 7 found this review helpful
If more sexual detail were present, this could easily make a series of stories for True Confessions magazine. That is how poorly this books reads; the stories of the women in this book are presented in template formula. If the authors had possessed strong interview and editing skills and the proper backgrounds, the book could have been compelling and relevant. Instead, it was an easy way for an attorney and a novelist to make money. Shame on Hyperion for sensationalizing this subject in such a fashion and for publishing such trash.
A Fine Book for the Right Reader September 30, 2005
8 out of 8 found this review helpful
This is an interesting book, a compilation of first-person accounts of women's affairs. The women range in ages and reasons, but all cheated on their husbands and fill these pages with the sagas.
There is something exhausting and sad about reading page after page of the dissatisfaction these women had with their husbands. Many married simply because they were ready to have children. Almost all the men were emotionally distant, sexually cold or even cheating themselves, and a few were abusive.
Some of the women had several affairs. Some left their husbands. One woman had a one-time fling and regretted it. A few warn, even beg, women readers not to cheat.
It's hard to imagine so many women are so unhappy, that this is so common that the book somehow reflects reality. It makes one feel jaded and cynical, even kind of trashy, to steep in the sadness and the sordid stories.
That said, a person struggling with issues of fidelity or marriage may find something profound within the pages. The editors have certainly captured many different stories, and the stories are well-written and compelling, if very sad.
It might not be a book to give to a newly engaged friend, but a fine book to give to someone dealing with the issues of infidelity.
 Wickedly good read... September 24, 2005
8 out of 11 found this review helpful
I really enjoyed this book. Curl up with a hot cup of tea and this book and I swear in less than 2 hours you'll be thinking about marriages today and wondering what your friends do behind closed doors. See, I picked up this book knowing full well that one of my good friends is having an affair. When I read this book, I could not help but see her situation duplicated many times over by other women. My friend is not a bad person although others would beg to differ just based on her actions. Like many of the women in this book, she doesn't want to hurt her husband. She just wants some attention and romance and perhaps she never grew up. I really don't understand why she does what she does but I can tell you this - based on what I have read in this book: she is not alone. Affairs are becoming increasingly common among women in suburbia today. Women don't talk about it much even with each other. This is a hard look at the girl next store. Highly recommend for a book club read - it will definitely open up group discussion!
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